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What do you do when you have attracted a lovely person into your life and now you’re terrified that you are going to blow it or terrified that it is going to end? I have talked to many such persons who have this phobia. In my own terms, I called it the “SCARETOLOSE” phobia. I came across many people weekly who has this fear of losing someone they love or even too afraid to be involved in a relationship because they have been hurt so deeply before. Well, I have come up with a few strategies in my own opinion that I hope would help all those troubled people out there.

Let us look at the WRONG STEPS TAKEN which will end a relationship right from the beginning.

1. “People with the same interests will definitely work out.” Assume the person is your soul mate immediately upon meeting or shortly thereafter. Look for signs that faith has brought you together and be amazed by the correlations in your lives.

2. “It is my life and who cares about all those people out there. They die is their business, not mine.” Forget about your life, your friends, your self-care. When you have a soul mate, why would you need a life outside of the relationship?

3. “I am who I am. We are meant to be together.” Reveal everything, and test your partner with your worst behavior. Let it all hang out. After all, if this is truly your soul mate, he or she will love you no matter what.

4. “Sex is the right way to show our commitment for each other.” Have sex right away. If you are meant to be together for a lifetime, you might as well get started on the fun part right away.

5. “He or she will have to follow what I do or say.” Ignore anything about your partner that does not match with your values, lifestyle, or belief system. True love can conquer such insignificant differences.

6. “Let’s do a trial run.” Do lots of drama together. Job, family, and life crises are great ways to establish a relationship and test whether or not you are meant to be together.

7. “We should not be separated at all times.” Spend as much time together as possible. When it’s true love, you can’t bear to let your partner out of your sight. Who believes in “Absence makes the heart grows fonder”?

8. “That’s just a small mistake, it is ok for me.” Ignore behavior that crosses your boundaries or hurts your feelings. It’s true love, so it’s ok.

9. “I put in 100% of my love and I should get the same.” Lavish a huge amount of attention on your partner or expect a huge amount of attention to be lavished on you. How else would you act if you finally found your soul mate?

10. “This is how I want it.” Push the relationship forward and demand that it go deeper, in spite of where your partner is emotionally. You have the right to have the relationship be exactly how you want it to be and your soul mate owes you that.

Actually, there are only 4 simple rules in a good relationship. It is so simple that hardly anyone takes note of them. If you want some insurance that your new relationship has every chance of making it, here are the answers: Honesty, Communication, Clear about your needs and boundaries and be a good listener.

On the other hand, your relationship may end no matter what you do. Due to some unforeseen circumstances, some things are not within our control. But being in fear, it will actually make the end more likely. To eradicate this fear, let us be assured that the person you are with be THE RIGHT PERSON. Simply be with him or her one day at a time. Do not rush into a relationship immediately. Start as a friend to understand him or her more. If everything go on smoothly, to commit in the relationship is still not too late.

十八岁。。。

一个羞涩的年龄，

人生中最精采的阶段，

隐藏著无数的惊喜，

充满了欢笑，

也包含了悲伤，

而那一年他爱上了她。

听着自己的心跳，

没有规则的跳跃，

我安静的在思考，

并不想被谁打扰，

我们曾紧紧拥抱，

却又轻易地放掉，

这种感觉很微妙，

應该怎麽说才好，

时间分割成对角，

停止你对我的好，

瓦解我们的依靠。

在妳离开之后的天空，

我像风筝寻找一个梦，

雨后的天空，

是否有放晴后的面容，

我静静的望着天空，

试着寻找失落的感动，

只能用笑容，

期待着雨过天晴的彩虹。

原以为自己已经遗忘了那段，

曾经让自己刻骨铭心的感情，

直到她再度的出现在他眼前，

他才明白原来自己不曾淡忘过，

只是一直不断的压抑自己，

假装不在乎。。。

Life is full of barriers and the unexpected. Things that we expect to happen never turn out to be as expected. We ended up in depression and stress. Some even attempt to end their lives over simple things like breakups. Read the following 13 things that I follow quite regularly. Digest each one carefully and think about it for a second or two. It happens to us quite frequently but we just didn’t take note of them at all. Thus, repeating the same mistake over and over again. Read further, it might just enlighten you that whatever that happen, happens with a reason. 

1. I love you not because of who you are, but because of who I am when I am with you.

2. No man or woman is worth your tears, and the one who is, won’t make you cry.

3. Just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to, doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all they have.

4. A true friend is someone who reaches for your hand and touches your heart.

5. The worst way to miss someone is to be sitting right beside them knowing you can’t have them.

6. Never frown, even when you are sad, because you never know who is falling in love with your smile.

7. To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world.

8. Don’t waste your time on a man/woman, who isn’t willing to waste their time on you.

9. Maybe God wants us to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right one, so that when we finally meet the person, we will know how to be grateful.

10. Don’t cry because it is over, smile because it happened.

11. There’s always going to be people that hurt you so what you have to do is keep on trusting and just be more careful about who you trust next time around.

12. Make yourself a better person and know who you are before you try and know someone else and expect them to know you.

13. Don’t try so hard, the best things come when you least expect them to.

你會貪新忘舊嗎？

現在的社會尤其是那十幾嵗的青少年就是這種樣本。。有了新的，不管是人物或物質，都會把舊的完完全全的忘掉。當一個人到市場買食物時必定要選最新鮮的，味道跟口感也是最佳的。然而，在處理感情關係時，有人亦會抱着愈新鮮愈好的心態。於是今日新相識的會比上星期相識的新鮮，最嚴重是未相識的永遠比現有的新鮮。這安心於份的心態，最終只會傷人兼害己。你會是那一種人，就試試看以下的心理測驗吧。。。

問題：

某天你到埃及遊玩，突然你發現到沙漠中有件閃閃發光的東西，你猜那會是甚麽？

A. 玻璃樽        B. 珠寶首飾        C. 塑膠玩具         D. 鐵罐

答案：

A 種: 你對於外遇這囘事，倒是看得很平常，不認爲它是罪悪的。你認爲出軌的對象只是一個很好的性伴侶罷了，另一半是沒有辦法阻止的，更不應視之為慾望的使然。

B 種：現在你對另一半最大的不滿，可能是認知上的差距。如果偶然讓你認識了一個和自己思想相近的夥伴，你内心可能會有一陣交戰。不過沒關係，你的本性中沒有帶着外遇因子，就算真的發生了，也絕對不會是主動去招惹來的。

C 種：你也許是在性事上有着極大的不滿，你一定很嚮往 [失樂園] 那樣的激情吧！事實上，在你的潛在慾望中，你好像還真的在期待一段刺激的出軌之旅呢，你自己察覺到了嗎？

D 種：基本上，你是一個絕對沒有外遇念頭的人，但是當另一半已經不再吸引你時，那就另當別論了。你是否感到大家之間已沒有共同話題？你對你的情人的熱情可能已經降到最低溫了，如果這時候讓你喜歡上另一個人，你也許不會是出軌玩玩，轉換一下心情， 而是真的跳下去談戀愛！

ARE YOU A PERSON WHO WILL JUMP INTO SOMETHING THAT IS NEWER?

In the present society, majority of the teenagers are like this…when they have found something that is newer, whether it is a human being or an item, they will totally forget about the older ones. When one goes shopping for sundries, surely he will choose something that is freshest and suit his taste bud. However, when it comes to romance and relationship, he tends to apply this in his approach for the better. Could he be thinking that who he met now could even be better than whom he met the previous week? The worst part of a relationship is that whom he has not met could be even better than who he is with now. In the end, not only will he hurt himself but also the person’s feelings towards him. Which type of person are you? Why not take the simple test below and find out more about yourself?

QUESTION:

When you are having a vacation in Egypt, you saw something shining far away. What do you think it is?

A. glassware    B. jewel    C. rubber toy    D. tin can

ANSWER:

TYPE A: You are a person who will consider meeting up with another person is somewhat normal. You will take the person as a good buddy. Whether the person is your soul mate or not, you will not force the relationship and will let it comes naturally.

TYPE B: Due to some differences, you are not feeling rather pleased with your other half now. If you met up with someone else who has the same level of thinking, you might have some feelings of guilt now. Do not worry as you have no intention of changing to something better right now. Even though if it has happened, it is not something that you did on purpose with an intention.

TYPE C: You are really unhappy with your love life and wished that you are in the “Garden of Unhapiness” right now. In fact inside you, you are looking forward to an exciting and romantic relationship. Are you not having that feeling right now?

TYPE D: You are a person who has not even a thought of having a relationship. Even if you are having one now, you will feel that your other half has lost his or her glitters and attractiveness. To you, this is the end of the road as there is no longer a common topic in your daily conversation.. If you met someone you like right now, you will be serious to jump into this relationship immediately.